I suggest therapy all the time on DearSugar for those in need of a listening ear, and therapy was brought up yet again on last night’s episode of The Hills. Clearly Heidi and Spencer have some things to work out if they want to make their relationship work, and it’s probably no surprise to you that I think couples counseling would do wonders for them! Taking that step and admitting you need help isn’t easy but I’m curious to know if any of you have actually done it before. Whether your dating or married, tell me, have you ever gone to therapy with your significant other?
There are no rules when it comes to getting married - some couples elope, some have quickie engagements, and others revel in engagement bliss and take their time before walking down the isle. Different things work for different couples, but I’m curious to know what your ideal engagement length would be, so do tell!
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I am engaged to a wonderful man. He is from a different country, although he has been in the US for more than 10 years. Sometimes I just don’t understand him though (he still has a pretty thick accent), or he will ask a “stupid” question about pop culture that I assume everyone knows, and I will just snap at him about it. But he is not the only person I do this to; I snap at my friends and my family members too.
I know it’s wrong of me to behave like this towards people I care about and I want to stop, but I don’t know how. I have thought about going to therapy, but am not sure it will help. My fiance would like to have children in the next year or so and I really want to break this habit before bringing children into my life. Do you have any advice?
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Sometimes we all need a little help navigating the choppy waters of dating when tech gets tossed into the mix, which is why geeksugar and I have teamed up for another installment of Tech Dating 101. Last week, we talked about canceling a date via text, and this week we’re discussing whether or not texting and making calls during your date is acceptable dinner etiquette.
Can I text and make phone calls during a date without being rude?
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I’ll make this one simple. Using your phone while you’re on a date is rude - period. A date should be about you and the person you’re with, trying to get to know one another, enjoying your time together, and most importantly, not worrying about what your friends are doing or who is trying to get in touch with you.
If you’re on a date with your long-term boyfriend or your husband, my opinion is a little different, especially if you have kids. While I think having chats at the dinner table is still impolite, I do think checking to see who is calling or reading a text is acceptable if you’re trying to make plans with other couples or if you’re calling to check in with the babysitter, but taking it any further is still a no-no in my book.
However, if you’re on a blind date and you think there’s a chance you’ll need to make a quick escape, by all means keep that phone on the table for your “emergency call” from your best friend!
To see what my girl geek has to say, be sure to click here!
In a perfect world, we’d make our partners get tested for STIs before getting busy in the bedroom, but as we all know, talking about it and making this kind of request with someone you’ve recently met can be stressful and a little awkward. So I’m curious, are you adamant about your guy getting tested to make sure he’s clear of STIs first, or is having protected sex with a condom good enough for you?
Me and my boyfriend got into a couple of bad fights last month. Actually it was more like me yelling like a crazy person and him trying to walk away. He says he does that so he won’t say something he’ll regret, but I take it as him not listening or not caring. We finally talked a week after our last spat, and he told me that he doesn’t think it’s going to work out because he’s tired of trying.
Every time it gets to the point where he wants to breakup with me, I change my tune and don’t sweat the small stuff. But after a couple of months go by, I get back into the routine of getting upset and flipping out. I know I need an attitude adjustment and I want to change, but I don’t know how. Do you have any advice? - Want to Save My Relationship Sandra
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Dear Want to Save my Relationship Sandra,
This isn’t a healthy cycle to be in so I’m glad to hear that you want to make a change. I think acknowledging your flaws is the first step, and I know that’s not an easy thing to do, so I applaud you for stepping up to the plate.
It sounds to me like you get angry easily. Try taking deep breaths and thinking through your emotions before letting your initial reaction get the best of you. If you find that that doesn’t help, try to look deeper inside to see if there’s something else going on that’s creating this anger. It’s also important that your boyfriend looks at the role he plays, as something tells me he’s not just an innocent bystander.
While I understand that you want to save your relationship, I think it’s important for you to make this change for yourself, not only your boyfriend. Talking to a trusted friend or a therapist might also help you sort through your emotions, but whatever route you decide to take, try to keep it all relative. Good luck to you.
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